‘I see you boys are hanging out with your babysitter’ Can you believe I was called a babysitter again?! Awkward...
My summer vacation with the kids is over for now. Matthew is back at work, the kids are with mom and Matthew won’t get back until the kids are back in school.
I have to admit, my blog came to a grinding halt with summer holidays happening. Now It’s time to catch up on a lot of work that was left when the kids were off school for the summer. So I scheduled a full day at home after everyone left to do some catching up. I was not going to leave the house, it was time to buckle down and get to work.
When I started looking for support groups over 2.5 years ago, I stumbled upon Jamie Scrimgeour over at www.jamiescrimgeour.com. She is an amazing mom/stepmom/wife and founder of the KICK-ASS Stepmom Project
Jamie is all about:
1. Opening up the conversation about the real life struggles of stepmom life.
2. Providing stepmoms with the tools that they need to truly thrive in this complicated role.
3. Creating a Community of stepmoms who are looking for positive, solution-focused support.
4. Debunking the B.S stereotypes that people think of when they hear the word "stepmom".
I was getting back to her on an e-mail where she asked me about my most awkward moment as a stepmom. And for the life of me, I couldn't think of anything. I was humming and hawing for hours until it hit me.
That time the stepkids and I ran into their old principal at the grocery store!
I didn’t want to go to the grocery store with the kids. It was a get-in-and-out-as-fast-as-we-can, I hope I don’t run into anyone and let’s go hit up the beach situation. Until I heard ‘Hi, Ms xxx’ from one of the kids.
Their old principal was excited to see the kids, she hugged them and asked the kids how their summer was going. Then she turned to me, gave me an unexplainable look and said to my stepkids ‘I see you boys are out with your babysitter today’.
Wait, what??? How do I even respond to this?
I don’t know why it made me feel defensive. I felt out of place, as if I didn’t belong. Irrelevant to the kids even though I do so much for and with them.
The kids didn’t know what to say, I didn’t really give them a chance to respond as I interrupted their old principal to correct her.
Yes, I should admit that I got my back up a little and I was blunt. I basically said ‘Uhhhm no sorry, I’m not their babysitter. I’m their stepmom.’
I haven’t felt this awkward as a stepmom ever. Yes, I’m younger and my husband is 12 years older. I get where this came from and she definitely apologized fast when I corrected her. But it still made me feel awkward.
There wasn't much I could do about it. It was an honest mistake, she had no clue who I was. I totally get it. I’m young, my stepkids are older. I would have been a teenager if I’d had them. It’s all good.
The kids and I had a good laugh over it. My husband was in disbelief when I told him and all he said was ‘NO WAY, HA HA HA (awkward laugh)’!
I can laugh about it now, However, not so much at that moment in time when I was completely caught off guard.