Valentine’s Day - A day you either wholeheartedly look forward to or despise due to its overwhelming consumerism.
Either way, why not use it as an excuse to plan a date night with your man?! Now, be honest with me and yourself, you don’t get enough one-on-one time with that special someone. We are adults who are ‘adulting’. Busy with our careers, kids, family and the handful of friends we still can find the time for. Life gets out of control and before you know it, poof, date nights are out the door.
There is so much going on in our lives that we forget to unplug, unwind and just be together. In addition, blended families are faced with so many added stressors that can cause unnecessary friction for a couple. You need to find time with your guy to forget about everything that’s going on. Establishing boundaries and rules during your date time is a must.
Off-limit topics on date nights can be:
- The ex
- Court battles
If you LOVE Valentine’s Day
Then I’m sure you're already planning a sweet date night with your guy. Or maybe he's planning it?! You go, girl!
If you HATE Valentine’s Day
Then use it as an excuse to plan a date night! It doesn’t have to be on February 14th and it doesn’t have to be expensive either.
Snuggle up on the couch and binge watch your favorite show on Netflix. There's nothing better than snuggling with the most important person in your life.
However, maybe watching TV isn't your thing. It could be gaming, video games, board games or card games. All equally as fun if that’s your thing. You might even get a little competitive after your partner keeps beating you at crib. That game is all luck! I speak from experience… 🙂
Go on a walk or hike. I’m a city girl at heart with an acquired appreciation for the outdoors. Cities are a great place to walk around, there's always something to see. Do you live in the suburbs? Heck, go on a walk and check out all the homes around your neighborhood. And if you’re out in the boonies... Well then, I don’t need to tell you that there are beautiful paths to explore in an even more gorgeous outdoor setting.
My absolute favorite is hanging out in the hot tub. This is by far where our best conversations happen without spending a ton of money. Leaving our cell phones out of sight and not having any electronics at our fingertips has been a game changer.
Lastly, take a few moments to connect with each other before you go to bed or after you wake up. Yes, technically not a date but taking a few minutes of your time every day to connect makes all the difference in the world.
Add a bottle of wine to your hot tub date, make sure the kids are watching a movie or send them to bed early. My stepkids are older and still at an age where we can send them to bed at 8 pm with 1 condition: lights out at 8:30 pm. There are no questions asked. Score!
Get a babysitter or arrange a playdate for the kids. (for the blended family, if you're on good terms, maybe their mom can take them for a visit? Or perhaps the grandparents?) - Then pack a picnic basket with your favorite snacks and drinks before you head out to a park.
Splurge on your date!
Make a reservation at your favorite restaurant and treat yourself to a 3-course meal and a good bottle of wine.
Check out what the local performing arts theater has on, get a couple tickets and enjoy a good show. In addition to a good show, you can make reservations for dinner or plan on having drinks at your local bar after the show.
Get away! Go on a city trip or book a couple nights at a nearby hotel. I have many great memories of cabin getaways, spa retreats and city trips with just Matthew and I. Once a year is a minimum. And this is still on the low end I have to admit, by the time our weekend away rolls around we are absolutely craving and needing it!
There are many different ways to spend time with your man and it doesn’t have to cost a lot of money, if any! Just make sure to always make time for each other.
What are your Valentine's Day Plans? Are you carving out some quality time with your guy?